No matter how old your child is, divorce will have a major impact on his/her life. Will your child have long lasting consequences? That will depend on how you will end your marriage, how you will build your life after divorce and how you will deal with your ex-partner in front of your children. It is absolutely possible to raise happy and well-rounded children when you are divorced. However, it will take some hard work from both of you, but the results are certainly well worth it.
It is imperative for you to understand that while your marriage is over, your relationship with each other will continue even after your divorce is complete. You are the most important persons in your children’s lives. Even when your children are grown, many significant events will bring you together. Weddings, celebrations, grandchildren, and social gatherings should not be poisoned by a bitter relationship between the divorced couple. Neither, it should be a matter where your children feel an anxiety about you being in the same room together.
An infant requires no more than the meeting of his/her basic needs: feeding, diapering, bathing, and bedtime rituals. Preschoolers spend a significant part of their development during playtime with their parents. For school age children, time spent with their friends is as important as the time spent with their parents and their extra curricular activities can take a lot of your time, resources, and energy. Finally, teenagers will require a totally different approach to parenting. Parenting time for these children as well as activities planned need to be discussed with them. The physiological and psychological changes may affect their behavior tremendously. Make yourself available to them, listen before offering your opinion or ideas and remember that it takes two people to bring a human being to this world and it also takes two people to raise a human being.
Once a parenting plan is developed, try to stick with the schedule, even if it is difficult at first. This will build trust between you and the other parent and it provides stability for the children.